Choosing one path means abandoning the other

There are times in life when you find yourself standing in front of two paths. They seem different, and yet the same. But you have to choose one and follow it, no matter what, no matter how hard it might be. At first you want to decide alone, without consulting anybody. Then, you turn to your inner self. You ask your heart, since you have always believed in what it tells you. Your instincts and impulses have always been strong. So this time you want to listen to your heart as well. Surprisingly though, it is silent, deathly silent.

Then you turn to your God. You always believed God sends omens to everybody. One needs to see and feel those spiritual messages from God. You ask God with all your being to help you see the omen and to interpret it correctly. Again that dead silence. Either you are not able to see or hear omens sent by God or perhaps God does not send you any omen.

You begin to feel lonely and hopeless. It is not helpful for you to turn to friends for advice. You know all too well that unlike you, your friends have already chosen paths to follow. You hear them calling you from the path they are following. Different friends are on different paths. Both paths have a lot of followers. They are not just followers but supporters of their own path.

Now, you begin to feel that you are really and truly alone and you are going to have to choose all by yourself. You wish desperately that you could see the end of both paths. You want somebody, something, an angel perhaps, to appear and answer your ‘what if’ questions. That does not happen either. Perhaps there is no such kind of angel or you are not a good person to be helped.

Rational people say think rationally. Sentimental people always seem to say listen to your heart. Besides, you cannot find any omen, sign or message in your dreams as you used to. You reconsider what you want from life. You want to choose both paths. You cannot. You can only choose one and you know choosing one means you can never walk the other path. Not now. Not ever.

Choosing one path means abandoning the other. You cannot travel both. This is not a movie or a book that will show you the consequences of both, which would make it easier for you to decide. You need to choose carefully and follow only one of the paths. You think of things told about fate and freewill. Then you think about the heroes you read about in books or have seen in movies. What would they do in your situation?!

Everything is in vain though. It is just you by yourself. There is nothing and nobody to help you to choose. When you finally begin to understand, you feel your heart beat faster…and then you remember God. You remember He has a plan for everybody, even for you. Maktub. (All is written)

So there you stand, in front of two paths. Nobody is around to help you decide. You do not remember anything useful from books or movies. You cannot think of anything else. Everything from the past is frozen. Life is frozen. It is like everything and everybody is waiting for you. Once you choose the path and start going down it, life will start again from the point where it had stopped.

You have no more time to decide. You must choose one or the other. Decide now. Life cannot wait any longer. Do not spend any more time standing in front of those paths. You must make a decision. You know yourself all too well. Once you start going down the path, you will not look back nor will you regret what you experience as you travel down it.

Choosing one path means abandoning the other. You must abandon one path. Neither your heart nor your mind knows where the path that you chose will lead. But you should follow it to the end, without ever looking back. Not even once. You made a choice. Respect your choice. Love yourself whatever your decision is. If you love yourself then you love God, everything and everybody around.


10 responses to this post.

  1. Posted by Eugene Gabrys on August 21, 2011 at 1:39 pm

    Thought provoking. Interesting juxtaposition between the spiritual and physical self. Deft use of a metaphor to express the dichotomy between two truths; the nature of humans and strength of belief in God.


  2. The Road Not Taken by Robert Frost

    Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
    And sorry I could not travel both
    And be one traveler, long I stood
    And looked down one as far as I could
    To where it bent in the undergrowth;

    Then took the other, as just as fair,
    And having perhaps the better claim,
    Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
    Though as for that the passing there
    Had worn them really about the same,

    And both that morning equally lay
    In leaves no step had trodden black.
    Oh, I kept the first for another day!
    Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
    I doubted if I should ever come back.

    I shall be telling this with a sigh
    Somewhere ages and ages hence:
    Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
    I took the one less traveled by,
    And that has made all the difference.


    • Posted by Gretchen on August 23, 2011 at 9:16 am

      Ah, so true. I’d not read this poem all the way through for many years!! The road less traveled is the puzzle piece that enhances my picture. It is full of the unknowns that make my life rich. Thanks for posting the entire poem. The greatest lesson is to NEVER look back and wonder what the other road would have offered. There is no value in that.


      • Thanks again, Gretchen, I’ll always remember you saying similarity between life and puzzle, we need to find right pieces to complete the puzzle. I believe I found one of the right piece of my life, puzzle, when I met you and my other ducklings. . By coming to PC i chose the less traveled way, and thanks to God, didn’t look back even once, hope it’ll continue. I am grateful to God for giving me a chance to meet wonderful persons like you.

  3. Thanks for your comments, Eugene and Steve… Steve, I really liked the poem. Thanks for sharing. I guess I am also going to say:

    I took the one less traveled by,
    And that has made all the difference.


  4. So true. As Agathon the ancient Greek poet said in about 400BC, “even God cannot change the past”.


  5. Hi Sabina. Lannea told me about your great blog. So glad to read your musings.

    While every soul does follow a path, the inquisitive soul walks with her head held high and her ears perked so as to see and hear the signs we all receive for when we should change our course. It is my belief that the greatest constant in life is change. So, though we may start on one path there are a series of rights and lefts we will be given the opportunity to take until we reach the end.


    • Hi, Glendene, Thank you for reading my blog. It is good to hear from you after so long time. Hope I’ll see you again soon.

      ‘ The greatest constant in life is change’ I totally agree with that. Thanks for sharing your belief.
      It is right, in every path we take there are other paths that waits to be chosen.


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